What He Thinks during the No Contact Rule: 15 Possibilities (2024)

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What is the male mind during the no contact rule? ›

The male mind during no contact

The no contact rule male psychology forces him to recognize his loneliness. After a breakup, if you stop contacting him, he will feel free and enjoy this phase as much as he can. But, with time, the loneliness and guilt pang will start to kick in.

He'll wonder if you miss him at all.

He might even go so far as to think you're already seeing someone else if he can't get in touch or see you on social media. This is a very uncomfortable time for him. He's struggling to understand why you're not responding to his texts, or what you might be feeling in return.

On average, it takes men about 8 weeks to miss their ex after a breakup. This can vary depending on the length and intensity of the relationship. You can tell he misses you if he texts or calls frequently, talks to other people about you, and invites you out to do things with him.

So there's a good chance that your ex is feeling like they have no value right now. They think that they're unloveable. Not only does it seem like no one wants them, but that–even if they were wanted– they wouldn't know how to create a relationship that lasts with another person.

Frequently Asked Questions. Will my ex-boyfriend forget about me if I don't contact him? It's unlikely that an ex will forget about you, even if you don't communicate with them after the breakup.

Men are stubborn at heart and often they'll cling to hope that you'll reach out to them at some point during the no contact rule. It's interesting because they start out expecting you to reach out to them and then when that doesn't happen they throw a tantrum only to wind up hoping that you'll reach out to them first.

Either that distraction is jumping into a rebound relationship with someone else, or going back to you, or immersing themselves into some sort of job and swearing off relationships altogether for a little while. So typically, your ex won't start missing you until around two to three whole months after the breakup.

Men often go through an emotional state called “Dumper remorse” after the woman finally goes away. This state hits after one month to six weeks after the man passes through the initial happy phase after a breakup. He starts to give away signs he knows he has lost you from that time.

One of the signs a guy misses you is that he may take his attention to the online version of you. At this point, he could begin to like all your posts, comment on the places where he's sure you'd see them, and even check out everything you post on your Instagram stories.

Signs He Thinks about You

You can tell if a guy is thinking about you if he texts you good morning and good night, he sends you random short messages all day, he asks you a lot of questions about you, he likes and comments on your social media posts, or he messages you when he's hanging out with his friends.

What kind of girl do guys regret losing? ›

The kind of girl guys regret losing is the self-assured girl. The self-assured girl is confident, independent, and knows her worth. She doesn't rely on others for validation and is secure in who she is. Guys regret losing her because she brings a sense of stability and strength to the relationship.

Chances are, if you are doing the no contact rule immediately after a breakup your ex boyfriend is going to be thinking about you a lot. He may have a little bit of stubbornness in him in that he won't want to be the first one to contact you.

During this period of no contact, you should avoid initiating any sort of contact with your ex. No calling, texting, Snapchatting, Facebooking, Instagramming, etc. You may be tempted to text or call in the middle of the night when you're feeling alone and vulnerable or if you have a bad history of drunk texting.

If the two of you were together for at least 6 months, take 2 months off. The length of the relationship matters when it comes to the no contact rule. If the two of you were together for 6-12 months (or longer), give yourself at least 60 days before you think about reaching out.

Do men always come back after you ghost them? Yes, they can. The male mind during no contact can divert them to feel your absence more strongly. People find their way back to their ex if they realize how much they miss her.

Guys typically scan your body if they think you're attractive or they're trying to flirt with you. He might also be checking you out because he's too shy to approach you. Watch for other flirtatious body language signals, like prolonged eye contact or leaning in toward you.

The answer is: Yes. Your ex misses you in the very same way he was in a relationship with you… Inconsistently.